Tuesday, May 03, 2005

Problem at Work

Well, I have a little problem and I am not sure what to do about. There is a 20 yr old female here that is constantly telling me how to do my job. Telling me what my boss allows and what he does not. Telling me I will never make it because I don't have the right type of education...etc. You get the picture. I see her as young and naive, still a child.
Well, on Friday she started up about how I could not do something...I tried to be nice...told her it was ok I had permission...and she kept on. And on and on and on...finally told her...It is ok, I know how to do my job. She tells me, in front of my 12 co-workers mind you, " You get an F****** attitude for nothing!" And then storms out. She Im's me...and continues the argument. I kept telling myself not to give in...but I finally did...much to my chagrin. I pretty much told her, you want an attitude I can give you an attitude. Dear Lord, when will I quit lowering myself to this childish behaviour.
Now for the problem. She has not spoken to me since. I am not mad at her...I never was...just got tired of the way she talked to me. So...I have not said anything to her. I have thought about apologizing...but then I think no....if I apologize she will think it is because I am sorry for what I said..and I am not...I don't need her telling me how to do my job. And then I thought about apologizing for getting angry...for which I am sorry and then just saying I did not appreciate the way she approached me in the situation. But if I do that...she will start arguing again. So, that is the dilemma...I don't know what to do about it. Just continue on not speaking to her since obviously she does not want to speak to me...or somehow apologize...I don't know what to do. Help me.

13 Comments:

At 4:03 PM, Blogger dcs said...

Have you spoken to your boss? There's no reason you should have to put up with her attitude, much less her profanity.

 
At 4:06 PM, Blogger BekahS. said...

I'm no expert about work relationships. I haven't done much work outside the home since I had my first child, so take what I say with that in mind.

I do think you could apologize for your anger, but make it clear that you have no desire to continue dialoging with her on your job performance. I'm guessing she is not your supervisor, so perhaps you could tell her you are answerable to ____ and if she has any comments regarding your job performance to please address it with him/her.

 
At 4:12 PM, Blogger st_ignatius110 said...

I agree about the profanity...but to be honest I cannot say anything about it because up until recently I used profanity...not to that extent..but I did cuss. :-( Been going to confession every week to get over that.

In regards to telling her if she has a problem to go my boss...I did so...and she just kept on and on. I did not want to go to him about it...although one of the other girls did who agreed with her...as a matter of fact..she told me...oh you better beleive I told him...lol...I so scared now. The thing is..my boss will NOT fire me. He is a good boss...but to lenient in alot of ways.

 
At 4:14 PM, Blogger st_ignatius110 said...

Ok...that looked as though my boss is to lenient and should fire me...lol. He won't fire me because I do my job and I do it well. Anyways, without sounding conceited..I hope.

 
At 4:23 PM, Blogger Rogers Gossett said...

print out the log of your IM with the girl and produce it to your supervisor when/if necessary.

 
At 4:24 PM, Blogger st_ignatius110 said...

Ok...just Im'd her this...

hey, just wanted to tell you I am sorry for getting mad the other day...I do have to say I am not sorry for what I said...cause I think it is true...but I should not have gotten upset over it

 
At 4:25 PM, Blogger BekahS. said...

I don't know what else you can do. Maybe at this point just offer it up and ignore them?

 
At 4:28 PM, Blogger st_ignatius110 said...

She just IM'd me back...

okay... that's fine... likewise, I'm not sorry for anything I said either but I'm sorry for contributing to the argument

I just said "cool"

Forget it...I aint taking the bait...lol.

 
At 4:31 PM, Blogger Texican said...

Talk to your boss.

She shouldn't be telling you how to do your job. She should take her issues to your boss.

Likewise, if she cannot contain herself (and some of her comments sound pretty unprofessional) you should taker that up with your boss as well.

 
At 4:32 PM, Blogger BekahS. said...

When she finally figures out she can't get a rise out of you, hopefully she'll leave you alone.

 
At 4:39 PM, Blogger st_ignatius110 said...

LOL..hopefully..It is a downfall of mine...sometimes my passion is taken in the wrong direction..I can get passionatly angry as well...thanks God for confession...I go every Saturday...this has helped me so much to make myself right with God.
By the way, thanks for all the advice. I really do love all of you here. :-)

Is that you Tex? From DCF?

 
At 5:34 PM, Blogger Texican said...

yupper! :>)

 
At 5:45 PM, Blogger st_ignatius110 said...

Sweet! Glad your dropped in...I sooo happy to see you. :-) How's the family?

 

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